On the surface, it wasn’t a wholly inappropriate conclusion for a gory British spy thriller known for its violent delights. But for viewers all-too-familiar with the pain of watching a queer character meet a tragic end — a trope referred to as “Burying/Bury Your Gays” — it felt like a shot to the back.
Another queer character, dead and gone. Another queer romance, snuffed out the moment it properly began.
Not every gay death is an example of this trope. But given recent strides for representation and inclusion in entertainment and mounting existential threats to LGBTQ+ people in real life, it feels especially old fashioned. It feels especially dangerous.
It feels like we deserve better.
The “how” and the “who”
There is a difference between a typical death and one that adheres to harmful “Bury Your Gays” narratives. While there are no hard rules, but the themes are easy to pick out.
In the most infamous examples, the fated characters tend to be fan favorites. They tend to have a following, in part because of the relatability of their queerness or queer-coding (a term for when a character isn’t openly queer but is presented in a way that sends signals to queer viewers). They tend to be part of a couple, a “ship,” in fan terms (short for “relationship”), that people emotionally invest in and root for. And, like in “Killing Eve,” it is not uncommon for their demise to happen shortly after a big, queer romantic revelation.
The feelings of betrayal would be easy for creators to disregard with a simple, “You can’t please everyone,” if not for the parable buriedin the subtext: Love — queer love — must be immediately punished by suffering.
“What’s damaging about this is not necessarily the isolated incidents, but rather how many there are,” Raina Deerwater, the entertainment research & analysis manager for GLAAD, tells CNN. “Whether it’s intentional or not, more recent moments recall a deeply homophobic history and relay the idea that queerness is punishable.”
These deadly patterns were once the legal norm in entertainment.
There were some exceptions. The code mandated that “the sympathy of the audience shall never be thrown to the side of crime, wrongdoing, evil, or sin.” So, characters could be gay, but only if they were portrayed negatively and received some sort of punishment.
In fiction, then, to be queer and otherwise marginalized is to suffer on multiple fronts.
Queer characters are already rare in popular media. Queer characters who are also people of color, or some other underrepresented identity — fat, disabled, neurodivergent, trans — are few and far between.
When such representation is a treasured rarity, watching them suffer is unpleasant. Watching them suffer needlessly, as a result of the very identities that connect them to people, can be demoralizing.
The solution, Deerwater argues, isn’t to cocoon queer characters in bubble wrap or limit their stories to rainbows and sunshine. Complex stories that end somewhere on the vast spectrum between perfect happiness and tragedy are part of reality, too.
“This is not to say queer people can’t die, or there can’t be nuanced queer tragedies,” she says. “But a lot of queer people want less tragic stories. We want joyful queer stories. We want to be given equal complexity as our straight counterparts.”
Writing the future
A number of newer shows, many geared toward a young adult audience, show a fresher side of queer storytelling. The CW’s “Batwoman,” Showtime’s “Yellowjackets,” Netflix’s “She-Ra: Princesses of Power” and HBO Max’s “Our Flag Means Death” all depict queer romances in ways that feel satisfying and uncontrived. The characters pine, they fight, they get together, they fall apart. In the long run, their queerness may be one of the most unremarkable things about them.
“Queer people, especially queer women, are a very vocal fan community. They really want representation that feels authentic and earned,” Deerwater says.
Fiction can shape the future, and every time a popular queer character is eliminated in a way that feels inexorably tied to their queerness (even if they are a murderous psychopath), it echoes the dangerous promises of systemic prejudice and oppression.
If the people who create our fiction can’t imagine a world beyond that, then what chance does reality have?
